Do you love the skin you’re in? It’s such a fine line to love the skin you’re in while trying to change the skin you’re in. I’m working hard on the positive self talk. It’s so easy to get down on yourself when you’re trying to lose weight and the scale isn’t cooperating. Hell, I’m even bad about shit talking myself when the scale IS cooperating! So, I’m trying to only speak to myself the way I want other people to speak to me. I’d never let anyone else call me fat, lazy, etc. Wow! This is harder said than done! I’ve realized how poorly I do talk to myself. Kevin says if he could change one thing about me it’d be how hard I am on myself. So, I’m trying my best to have no more of that.
Anyhow, we are going to the beach in 16 days.
SIXTEEN DAYS. PRAISE THE LORD!
I won’t lie. My weight has certainly flitted across my mind regarding the beach. I thought about what I weighed last Summer when we went to the beach, my honeymoon weight at the beach, what I weighed in Mexico, etc. etc. Instead of it bringing me down, I’m letting it serve as motivation. I asked Kevin if he was running today, because he’s started running again and I ran this morning. (YAY on all counts!)
HA! Kevin made the sad face, and I knew it was because he hates when I’m so hard on myself. I caught where that self talk was going to turn negative and then realized I’m done with that. Also, the biggest I’ve been in a very long time means I weigh 13lbs more than I did last year we went the to beach…and I’m still over 2 weeks away. I might only be 5 pounds heavier when we go, and guess what, when you’re a lifetime member at Weight Watchers you have a 5lb wiggle room. So, technically, in the spirit of “Loving the Skin You’re In” – I might weigh the same as last year. Boom. Mind blown.
I’ve also set my alarm with positive self talk. What’s better than waking up and the first thing you see is something to make you feel good about yourself?
When I did a self-esteem meeting with my girl guides I made comments about 2 girls (who I know well and wouldn’t mind) that were extremely mean. Things that would be called bullying when we say them to other people. I asked them if that was bullying, and whether it is bullying when they say things like that to themselves. I had them write positive messages about each other on cards and take them home. I often re-read my card that they did for me when I have a bad self-confidence day.
that’s a great challenge…I accept…thanks! My husband Brian says the same thing about me…He would change what I say and how I see myself. It’s a hard thing to change when I’ve been negative about myself image for so long, but time to change that…
Have a wonderful week! 🙂
It is hard to do, but so far I’ve noticed I’m in a much better mood!
I LOVE this! What a great lesson to teach your girls. 🙂
That’s a tough challenge, because people don’t even realize we do it. We are so shaped by the “public eye” that we don’t even realize how much we down talk ourselves. All you have to do is look at the grocery store. You walk down the aisle and …
… you enter the produce section: “I need to eat more veggies because it will help with my weight loss.”
…. candy aisle: “Oh I want that chocolate, but it will just sit on my hips. Might as well just not consume it, and just slap that stuff right on my ass.”
… frozen section: “Oh we need deserts. Skinny Cow or Drumsticks? Skinny Cow at least is portion controlled so I don’t eat the whole box. And Well We all know I am fat so need something with Skinny in it, but the Drumsticks and OH!!! Ben and Jerry’s is on sale!”
… Cereal aisle: Humm Mini-wheats, Cheerios… ohhh look Cookie Crunch is on sale. I haven’t had that since I was a kid. No wonder I was fat. Look at what I chose to eat. I’m still fat. Better get the Cherrios so I can get the fat off.
… Check out line: “LOSE 10 POUNDS BY NEXT WEEKEND!” ; “Whose blubber beach bod is this?”; “Cosmetic surgery bluders!” ; “Bob leaves Jane because she’s as big as a house!”
Yea… It’s horrible. We have to think better of ourselves.
Yes, this has definitely been challenging, but also rewarding. I find myself asking, “Would I let someone else say that to me?” My answer dictates my next action. The first few days were extremely hard, but I feel like I’m starting to make progress. Slow and steady, right?
I’m down for this challenge.
Can’t wait to hear how you do!
Good luck!! And enjoy that beach trip 🙂
Love the alarm clock messages! Mine says “let’s go rockstar!”
Love how you set your positive alarm self talk!! I’m going to do the same on my alarms. The hardest critic of ourselves is us. I use to go around saying I’m Fat…I’m Fat and my friends would always yell at me about talking bad about myself. Then when I really picked up weight and went up three sizes…I would critize myself and I had some friends who would get mad like before and then some that just stay silent now when they use to tell me no. So it made me a little sad and I felt worse and still do. I don’t think they meant harm, but it did. I work really hard now to keep positive and think positive things to say about myself now. I may be big…but i’m loving my big self…even while slimming down. I’m not without my own pitty parties but they’re fewer. Hope you all have a great time at the beach!!
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Isn’t this a lovely idea, going a day without negative self talk!