“If I can do it, you can do it, too!”
I read this article a while ago and it got brought up again and I’ve just been stewing…. It’s just bullshit. I’m sorry. Not the woman, not her mission, not her intention. Just this phrase infuriates me. I hate, with every ounce of my being, when people say that. The article quotes her as saying, “I wanted to inspire people,” she explains, adding that the “What’s your excuse?” part was simply a borrowed, popular phrase that’s been used in various “fitspiration” campaigns. “I wanted to say, ‘I know you think you don’t have time if you have kids. But if I can do it, you can do it, too.’”
So, here are my “excuses”:
We have not had the same struggles.
Our background is totally different.
We do not have the same DNA.
We do not share the same hormones.
We don’t have the same schedules.
We don’t share employers.
Our support systems are different.
Our health is different.
Oh, here’s the main one: I am not you.
Maybe this is illogical on my behalf, but I just get so angry when I try and compare myself to someone else. I am not in the cookie cutter mold and I have never followed typical patterns. I know that about my body. I know that the week I had my biggest loss I had also partied at a wedding and drank and ate like nobodies business. I’ve gained weight in the weeks I’ve been Perfect on Plan. When I try and compare myself to the “If I can do it, you can do it, too!” assholes I get frustrated and disappointed with myself.
Kuddos to her though. She looks fantastic. I would only be so lucky to look like that after 3 kids. Hell, I’d be so lucky to look like that WITHOUT 3 kids. But the truth is, I can never recall having abs, or a toned body, or fit arms, or tight skin or any of those luxuries. What I can recall is busting my ass for hours in the gym. Training for triathlons. Running until I vomit. Never wanting so something so bad and not giving up. Crossing the finish line and nearly collapsing after my first 5k. Crossing the finish line and feeling incredible after my last 10k. What I can recall is working hard, making time and doing the best I can. I can recall having the same principles as Maria Kang, but not the same results, and that’s okay. I am not you.
Her struggle was with bulimia, my has always been with obesity and binge eating. Studies have shown that yo-yo dieters, or even people that have lost weight previously will have a more difficult time taking it off the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, so on and so forth go round.
I’m not jealy or being a hater, I AM JUST NOT YOU. And that’s okay.
Shit, maybe I’m just hangry and need to go eat breakfast…