Perception and Advice

Help Support Advice Assistance and Guidance on a signpostI contemplated not going to Weight Watchers yesterday.I knew I’d weigh heavy from the weekend. I knew it’d disappoint me. I knew I’d be upset. And I did. And I was. I sat down next to my dad totally bummed and mad myself.

“All that hard work down the drain because you can’t keep your shit together on the weekend.” “So stupid.” “To hell with your goal – you’ll never see onderland at this point.” “The same effing pounds over and over and over again.” It all ran through my head.

The topic this week was what advice would you give someone brand new to Weight Watchers, just starting out?

We all wrote down our answers on a little piece of paper, folded it up and put it in a basket. Everyone redrew a piece of paper and anonymously read it aloud.

Someone started to read mine and she choked up. She got emotional. She had to stop reading and compose herself. I realized that there were a few other people that were getting emotional. The leader made a comment about the advice being “powerful.” The woman quietly whispered, “I needed that.” 

I keep replaying this in my head over and over again.

My advice? “If I could do anything, I’d hug my 325lb self and tell her I’m sorry and I love her. Forgive yourself. Your journey won’t be black and white. Find your grey.”

This morning I woke up, still thinking about this. I went for my run and I still couldn’t shake it. As I was running it hit me – I was being a hypocrite. The truth is – I needed that, too. 

So, I had this conversation in my head:

Did you have a good weekend? Yes
Did you really do that bad? No.
Is this mostly water weight? Yes.
Is some of it because you’ve started running and you know this happens the first two weeks you run? Yes
Did you gain 125lbs or 1.6? 1.6
Is the world really ending? no
Does the scale define you? no
 MOVE ON, DANIELLE. LET IT GO. Forgive yourself. These things will happen. Your world has not ended. Got it? YES!

Forget Weight Watchers – What advice would you give someone that is JUST starting a new lifestyle?

19 thoughts on “Perception and Advice

  1. We all have those days! We just need to remind ourselves that it’s really not the end of the world and to keep pushing through, one day at a time! Slow progress is still progress, and progress is perfection!

  2. Sometimes we forget about all that we have accomplished when we take a step back from our goal instead of a step forward. I am slowly learning that I cannot let the scale determine how I feel. I think you are awesome, always have and always will. 🙂

  3. I needed this post. While I had my spunky run in this morning, it is still hit hard, even though I deflected it.

    Your right though. Remember to love yourself, and the world is not ending!

  4. After years of yoyo dieting I have actually completely stopped weighing myself and started setting clothing items as goals. No matter how much I said it didn’t, the scale always defined me… So now it’s gone. I don’t know how much I’ve lost these days I just keep picking clothes that don’t quite fit and then celebrating when they do. It’s bizarre and very freeing. Great job on the running by the way!

  5. Yes, I’ve alternated between having a scale and not having a scale. When I can use a scale like a normal person and not one with OCD I keep it around. When I feel my crazy coming on – I lay off. It’s best for everyone when this happens. lol

  6. He he. I think I am pretty crazy in the whole weight loss department at times too. I definitely don’t have the whole balance concept sorted out yet! Good on you for continuing to search for that grey zone and not settling in the extremes either side.

  7. I have done the yoyo dieting ‘thing’ since I was about 13, I am now 43. I finally realized if I didn’t do something about my weight, my health and my ability to see my kids grow up and become parents would suffer. I made the conmitment to a healthy lifestyle, starting in december with gradual changes, I don’t worry about how long it is going to take me to loose all the weight I want, cause I know it is going to happen. I am doing this for the right reasons with the right mindset. To date I have lost 50.6lbs and have approximately another 65 to go. I wake up each day knowing I am getting healthy and setting a good example for my children. I wish everyone success on their journey.

  8. ” I wake up each day knowing I am getting healthy and setting a good example for my children.” THIS! I want to be a good example for my future children. I don’t want them to have this struggle, too.

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