An open apology, my ass

callingbullshitI’m clearly a glutton for punishment because I’m about to bring this up. The “An Open Apology to All of My Weight Loss Clients” letter that’s going viral. I probably shouldn’t touch this with a 10 foot pole because I’m going to piss a lot of people off. However, if you have a few minutes, read the article.

I have a few problems with this article. This is something I strongly believe in.

At some point in our lives, as adults, we must take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. At some point, it is no longer our parents fault, our education, our environment, etc. At some point – it is 100% you. You make your own choices, you determine your actions and you are responsible for doing your own research on things that will impact your life. I feel this “letter” is a reflection on both the companies and the patrons.

I understand that people get to a very desperate place when they want to lose weight. They want immediate gratification. They go to endless limits. I have never taken diet pills and I have never sought “quick” results. It’s all a gimmick. But – perhaps I know this because I’ve done my research. I’ve read the studies. Perhaps I’ve had good results and the ability to keep my weight off because of my education. Perhaps the people that visit the specialized weight loss clinics and take pills and do all of the crazy things are truly ignorant and blind to the reality behind it all. Regardless, you are responsible for your own actions. If you seek advice it is ultimately your decision if you use it. If you spend money on it or not, it is still your choice. We live in corporate America and companies want to make money. If there’s a niche, it will be exploited. It is fair to say that the weight loss industry has been exploited.

The only people I do not hold responsible are the minors brought by their parents.

Alright! Here goes: regarding the correct amount of calories someone should be taking in? The nursing mothers? You should be consulting a doctor – not a weight loss specialist. The runner that’s only eating 1200 calories? Read a book, listen to your body, educate yourself. Companies are there to make money. The employees? It is their responsibility to be educated and understand what they are supporting. Would you work for a company you don’t believe in? I sure in hell wouldn’t. I work in Non-Profit, because I support the cause. I support the mission. I support the belief. The author says, “I believed the lies we were fed as much as you did.” This brings me back to responsibility. Maybe it’s me. Call me crazy – but if I am pumping people full of information, at some point – the second I think to myself, “hmmm..this doesn’t seem right…” I stop. I question the system. I question my beliefs. I question my role in it all.

I read the article and then the first thing I did was educate myself. I found the source. Not Huffington Post, but the author’s site. Alright, cool – I don’t get the whole fairy angel thing, but ok – sure. You do you. And then this. Scroll all the way to the bottom and you’ll see: “Investment: $1197 or $697 for women who have participated in my challenges (Breaking the Chrysalis and/or the Anti-Diet Challenge). Installment plans available upon request.” I feel like it’s the same damn thing. It’s a glimmer of hope for a ton of money. It’s a desperate person hoping this is “finally the answer.” And you know what? It might be for someone, but it might have been the diet center for a someone else.

One of the things I appreciate about Weight Watchers is that it’s not based directly off of calories – but off of nutrients and what you’re actually putting into your body. You don’t get a diet plan, but you get tools and the ability to make your own choices. You learn by trial and error. You learn to be responsible for your own food choices. I made my choice and went with Clean Eating. If you recall, I don’t buy the WW food because I’ve done the research, I buy their concept.

I feel like all we do now is pass the buck. We blame someone else for who/what we are. Not just in the food sense. It’s the violence in our video games. It’s the food industry, the chemicals, our parents, our environment, our schedules, our magazines, our media. It’s everything but us.

You need to be your biggest hero. You need to surround yourselves with cheerleaders. You need to educate yourself and become your biggest fan. You are your own responsibility.

I’ll get off my soapbox now.


12 thoughts on “An open apology, my ass

  1. I agree. I looked into various plans when I wanted to make a change and chose Weight watchers because of the teaching involved and the after-care of maintenance. I was really successful and learned how to feed my body and how to correct myself after I fell back into old, bad habits. I’m not saying I’m perfect (I gained back 1/2 of what I lost after I stopped following the plan and am back to making better choices), but I know what I should and shouldn’t do to live a healthy life rather than what to do only to lose weight. You should never be eating so little you need supplements and if you can’t eat from the grocery store or the occasional restaurant it will never be along term solution.
    I’m a scientist and I did my research on what my body needs to function and based my plan off that, in accordance with the weight watchers points. I worry for people who are misled by these companies selling “science” that they don’t understand and touting “studies” that are neither reviewed or scientifically accurate. I hope this gives pause to others working for these companies to re-evaluate what they are selling and the harm it may be doing to others.

  2. Well said! I think the biggest challenge is that (in the UK), young people do not learn enough about healthy eating and nutrition at school… and even if they do learn, they are not given healthy choice options for lunch and are surrounded by vending machines full of soda, sweets and crisps!

  3. “I know what I should and shouldn’t do to live a healthy life rather than what to do only to lose weight.”

    JACKPOT! This is exactly it! Gah! So frustrating.

    Thanks for commenting. 🙂

  4. Well said! I could not agree with you more. Like you, I’ve done the well as exploring other diets but always avoided the extreme, too-good-to-be-true diets….because that’s exactly what they are! Weight Watchers is my chosen path and I know it will take time, but I’m learning every day. Love your blog!

  5. “At some point in our lives, as adults, we must take responsibility for ourselves and our actions.” YES! YESYESYES. Is there a “Love” button? I’m so glad I’m not the only one who thinks this way. I’m also re-blogging for love ❤

  6. YEP. Sometimes it’s worth finding a professional who’s not shilling extra services to help you sort out the informational wheat from the chaff, but other than that? You need to do your reading, critically evaluate what people are saying and build up processes (like cooking your own meals!) that will serve you for the rest of your life.

  7. Thanks so much for commenting! Our culture wants instant gratification and what people need to realize is that it took more than one day to gain weight – it will take more than one day to get it off. If people could understand this I feel like we’d be a hell of a lot better off.

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